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Starting with a definition: Communication<\/a> is “a process by which information is exchanged<\/strong> between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs, or behavior” (thank you Merriam-Webster — emphasis mine)

Notice the emphasis on “information is exchanged.” If INFORMATION is NOT being EXCHANGED then you don’t have “communication.” Two people yelling at each other might be “fighting” and “sending messages” but calling a screamed insult “information” is true only at the lowest level.

Remember “communication” involves a “message” being “sent” AND “received” — e.g. if both sides are “sending” at the same time (e.g. two folks yelling at each other) then accurate reception of the “sent” message is unlikely.

My completely made up on the fly “communication rule #1” is to point out that “active listening” is part of “effective communication.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Know the audience<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Imagine a radio station BROADCASTING a signal. That “signal” has to be “received”\/interpreted for “communication” to take place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If a “sender” wants their message to be understood – then they need to tailor the “message” to the recipients. That radio station is sending out a signal on a specific frequency which recipients will need a “radio receiver” tuned to the correct frequency to receive.

BUT the “message” also need to be crafted with the recipients in mind.
e.g. someone is giving a speech to “college presidents” the form of the message will be much different than someone giving a speech to “elementary school students.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The “message” will also need to be adjusted based on the “media” involved — e.g. a “published article” in a scholarly journal will be crafted differently than an op-ed for a local newspaper.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What should be “obvious” is that NOTHING<\/em> should be assumed to be “obvious.” The more familiar a “speaker”\/”writer” is with their audience the better they will be able to communicate a message.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

e.g. Assuming that “EVERYONE knows” something can cause problems – “Well, everyone knew I was joking” becomes a recipe for misunderstanding (especially if you are in a leadership position)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

btw: I’m NOT saying to avoid “humor” – I’m pointing out that attempts at “humor” can easily be misunderstood. “Joking around” with people you have known for years will (almost certainly) be taken differently than “joking around” with someone you just met …<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Feedback<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Definition time: Feedback<\/a> “the transmission of evaluative or corrective information about an action, event, or process to the original or controlling source”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Feedback” covers a LOT of communication territory – it can be positive or negative – constructive or destructive – and will obviously vary in “usefulness” based on a combination of “sender” AND “receiver” characteristics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Effective feedback takes effort and a willingness to listen. Honesty is essential – BUT “honesty” should not be an excuse to be mean\/insulting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Honest” feedback is NOT just pointing out everything someone did WRONG. Honestly pointing out the positives is also not “flattery.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Feedback is (drum roll) “communication” – and to be effective must be tailored to the individual\/audience AND be “actionable.” <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A “fan” telling their favorite artist how fantastic they (the artist) is might be “honest” and appreciated – but isn’t exactly “useful feedback” – e.g. Fan: “YOU are great I love your work” Artist: “Thank you”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Same is true of a “manager” heaping abuse on an “employee” during an “annual review” – e.g. manager: “I haven’t given you any feedback all year, but now I am going to tell you how terrible a job you have done so I can justify not giving you a raise!” Employee: “Thank you for the motivation to look for another job!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The “actionable” part if important for something to be “feedback” – i.e. if I just say “I liked x and y” then I am giving my opinion – If I say “X and Y seemed to work well, Z could have been better – maybe try ABC next time” then THAT is “feedback”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Praise<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A specific type of feedback gets called “praise.” By definition praise<\/a> is favorable BUT it is not just giving compliments or saying “positive” things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For “praise” to be effective it needs to be specific. e.g. “I watched your performance and I thought you did x, y, and z REALLY well” is better than “You looked good out there” (though both may be appropriate at certain times).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Compliments also work best when they are specific – with “honesty” being the difference between a “compliment” and “flattery.” <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When “awards” show season rolls around I tend to point out that giving out awards for singing\/acting\/artistic impression is a little pointless from a “fan” point of view (i.e. I don’t need someone to tell me what I should like) BUT that doesn’t mean the awards are pointless.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hey, fans “voted” on what they like by buying tickets – so a lot of awards become “recognition by peers.” e.g. If “people that do X” for a living all get together and vote on who did “X” best this year – and then give out an award – the award becomes a form of “peer praise”\/recognition, which is always nice<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The point being that “knowledgeable praise” – as in “praise from people that honestly understand the act being praised” – is much more valued than “random praise from non-experts”
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Constructive Criticism<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Of course “perfect performances” tend to be rare – so pointing out “what didn’t go so well” is also important.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Criticism” implies “unfavorable feedback” – which is why you often hear the term “constructive criticism” used for the process of “evaluating or analyzing” an event.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Youth coaches” will talk about “praise sandwiches” as a model for constructive criticism – e.g. start the feedback with a “positive” (praise), mention a “corrective” (criticism), and then end with another “positive” (praise)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once again, audience matters – if you are coaching a “Little League Baseball” team and are talking to the team after a game, then “praise sandwiches” all around. If you are doing film study with older athletes then “praise sandwiches” will probably come across as a little disingenuous.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Pet Peeve<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Occasionally I see a “social media” post that goes something like “I don’t know who needs to hear this – but you are doing a great job!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“You can do it!”<\/p>Townie (Rob Schneider) from “The Waterboy<\/em>“<\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Now, I appreciate the sentiment – but generic affirmations from someone that has never met me are not particularly useful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I’m not particularly offended by those type of posts – but I wouldn’t classify them as “feedback” in any form. Maybe call them a “positive thought broadcast” but not “praise.” <\/p>\n\n\n\n

BUT I could always be wrong …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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